Ripple Effect of 9/11 on families
Sep 2017
11

The Ripple Effect of 9/11

Around this time 16 years ago, Bryan and I had just decided we wanted to try to have a baby. This is a big decision for anyone, but even bigger for us, who spent a decade swearing we didn’t want children.

Then 9/11 happened.

It made us question everything, especially the idea of bringing a child into our crazy world.

Ultimately, we decided that to give into fear was not how we wanted to live and Dex arrived prematurely just two days after the first anniversary of 9/11.

Of course, this memory of that day pales in comparison to all those who were there, and most especially to those who we lost.

But sometimes, I feel like – just 16 years later – we are already forgetting what a huge ripple effect that day had one everyone. It, sadly, *really* changed the world.

And yet, this week, we celebrate by son’s 15th birthday and remember that, yes, the good stuff stays the same.

Aug 2017
17

No “Both Sides” to Charlottesville

Let’s be clear. There is no “both sides” to Charlottesville.

Yes, we have free speech in this country and while it’s specifically to stop the government from stopping us from saying whatever we want, let’s not get in the weeds on that one like we always do.

Let’s look at it like this: A group of people whose main tenet is that whites are superior and the earth should be “cleansed” of everyone who isn’t white were marching around chanting “Jews will not replace us” as well as “blood and soil” (yes, a Nazi thing, just FYI) all while rallying around a statue of a confederate general.

Many things the president said about Charlottesville were incorrect, from who had permits, to the implication that you need them to protest to begin with. He even lied about the winery, which his son owns and isn’t anywhere near the largest in the country.

But “both sides” were at fault?

Just think it through from a moral perspective. Continue reading…

Why Hillary Lost 2016
Apr 2017
23

Why Hillary Lost & Where We Go From Here

The post-mortems on why Hillary lost are finally in full swing and I’m in agreement with the gist: the media misrepresented her, didn’t correct lies about her, and the Comey letter sealed the deal. She also, of course, made mistakes herself, especially by misreading the angst and mood of the country.

Here’s the thing, I am/was/will always be a fan of Hillary Clinton. Is she a perfect person or candidate? No. Do I agree with every part of her platform? No. But she is brilliant and spent her life fighting for children and healthcare.

Did I want her to run this time? I was only against it because of exactly what happened. She got beat up – again. She has baggage, almost 100% of it lies or ridiculous twistings of the truth – but people just can’t seem to get past their hate. Continue reading…

Mar 2017
15

Under The Bus

If you know my husband Bryan, he had crazy hair throughout his teen years. He got grief about it and swore he would let our kid do what he wanted.

So, Dex had his hair longer for a while. Every single time I talked to mom, she said he needed a haircut.

Then when Dex wanted to color his hair bright blue and purple, I knew mom would be, um, less than thrilled. I prepped her for it slowly and also warned Dex that his Oma would never like it.

Yeah, she didn’t. 😬

On the night mom passed away, Bryan and Dex made it just in time. We had about a half hour of real lucid time together. Her eyes got huge when she saw Dex, she lifted her hand to his face as he leaned over her, and she said, “You’re so big!”

We then had Dex come stand next to me so she could really see how much he had grown – slightly taller than me now at 5’10”. She just kept shaking her head. “So big.”

We sat down with her and chatted for a bit and I said, “So, mom, what do you think of Dex’s crazy hair?” It’s quite faded right now, but still blue on the ends.

She smiled and said, “Good.”

I said, “Oh yeah? Well, he wants to color it bright red next. I am against it. I don’t think it will suit his face.”

She smiled and nodded. “No. That will be fun.”

We all burst out laughing as I said, “MOM! THANKS FOR THROWING ME UNDER THE BUS!”

And you KNOW that Dex has brought it up more than once since… that *HIS OMA* said he could get hair done red.

Seriously.

THANKS, MOM.  ❤️

Photos and Signs from Women's March Denver 2017
Jan 2017
21

Photos and Signs from Women’s March Denver

Today, people from all over the world gathered in their cities in a show of solidarity for equal rights. It was called the “Women’s March,” but in my opinion, it should have been the “People’s March,” because it put on display all the issues we have been wrestling with since Donald Trump was elected president (and before). Here in Denver, they were expecting 40,000 people and that number exploded to well over 100,000, with some estimates as high as 200,000.

We found it to be a bit overwhelming, of course, with all those people – but the atmosphere was all about love. A huge variety of signs, as you will see in the gallery below, with creative flair and humor. Today was so uplifting for us! We sincerely thank the organizers, the police, the city of Denver and everyone who made the Women’s March possible. Continue reading…