Online Safety For Children
Jun 2015
10

Online Safety Tips for Kids (And Their Parents!)

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This blog is a decade old. Seeing as my son is almost 13, he is has grown up online – at least in these archives. It has been an interesting learning experience for him, and us, as he’s grown.

I used his real name when I started because many other mom bloggers were making up cutesy names and I figured “Greeble” was goofy enough. That came back to bite us when his friends first learned how to Google each other and started reading stories about his diaper rash. Super quickly many posts got moved to “private” to protect his privacy. It even changed the whole tenor of the site: as he has grown up, there are less stories about him here because the stories are not mine to tell.

I have always been a bit of a stickler for following the COPPA age 13 standard for social networks. I recognize that every family finds their own way, but in addition to being a rule follower – having a public blog has taught me things about dealing with the online world. As Dex approaches this milestone, we have been prepping him, taking things slowly and learning about the every evolving landscape together. Continue reading…

Stay Gold, Ponyboy - Outsiders
Feb 2015
06

Stay Gold, Ponyboy.

I was chatting with a friend recently about our teen years and the stories were the same. While I never had outright bullying, there was a lot of ugly teasing and mean girls. I grew up in an area and a time where everyone was supposed to be exactly the same.

My friend talked about how, when he turned 14, all of his friends pretended that they didn’t know him. These kids who used to walk down the street to pick him up on the way to school all of a sudden, they would just yell rude comments and keep on going.

One of my worst memories from high school was when two best friends just didn’t pick me up one night, and then pretended they never even knew me after that. Like we had not been friends for the past however many years. Like I hadn’t slept over umpteen times. Like, what the hell just happened?

So, yeah, as Dex entered middle school – that time when friends traditionally get judgey – I have been a little, let’s say… twitchy. I try not to impose my past experiences too much, because not only is Dex an old soul – he is most definitely his own person. He has generally not really cared what anyone thought and has gone his own way. Part of it, I know, is all that diversity we fight for – one benefit seems to be (thus far) kids like to be different. Less pressure to wear exactly the same clothes and do exactly the same things. I am pretty sure we all owe Glee a huge debt of gratitude. Continue reading…

Teens Wait For Snapchat
Feb 2015
02

Still Won’t Allow Our Tween To Use SnapChat… For Now

I hated Snapchat from the moment it was released. As someone who has a decade-old blog, the idea of sending quick photos that disappear made no sense to me, other than for sexting or bullying people. I tried it, didn’t like it, deleted it.

With the arrival of Stories and Discover on Snapchat, it’s gaining more and more power, and not just with teens. Brands are creating pages there and I wanted to know why, so I re-downloaded it this weekend.

The interface continues to be terrible. Non-intuitive other than the idea that yes, I am supposed to take photos and share them… somewhere. I can “discover” little snippets from brands and swipe around to look at content in a completely disorganized way. I can press and hold to view… something? Continue reading…

Jan 2015
05

The Process

As Dex grows up, it feels like every day we find a new way to communicate with each other. If you have kids, you will remember those early days when every time you turned around there was another milestone. That is why many of us started blogs, to capture all of that. Entering teenhood is another renaissance – but the milestones are so subtle, you have to squint to see them.

Dex has a big project that is due this week, something that could frankly change everything in our lives. He has been a bit lackadaisical about it and we’ve been teetering on that parental edge where you don’t know when to push, when to cajole, or when to let them do what they do – pass or fail. It’s a big project. I keep reminding myself he is only 12. The pressure these kids have in middle school is astronomical. But if he wants this, he has to get it done. Continue reading…

Dec 2014
16

Parenting To Yourself

Bryan stayed home with Dex for the first two years; it’s always given them a special bond. I have never been jealous (OK, maybe just a little), but I have always attributed their ability to get along to time spent and compatible interests. Not to say that Dex and I don’t have a good relationship, or that we don’t have our own special things we do together. It’s just that we’ve always been able to push each others buttons more than anyone else, ever.

As Dex approaches teenhood (he’s nearly 12.5), it’s becoming more and more clear this is actually because we are so much alike. We both like (need) to be right. We both get defensive (angry) when pushed into a corner. We both get emotional (illogical) when we feel attacked.

One thing no one ever tells you when having kids is how it feels to parent your own face. A lot of people talk about how Dex looks like Bryan, and he does. But his eyes are mine. So I am looking into my own face as I watch my son become a full-blown teen and exhibit full-blown teen behaviors. When I mention this to my mom, I only get a little snicker – or sometimes silence – basically to be interpreted as: PAYBACKS. Continue reading…