Michael Brown Ferguson
Aug 2014
18

Talking To My 11 Year Old Son About Ferguson

Our son will be 12 next month and for the most part, except for his premature beginnings, his life has been relatively stress free. As parents, we try to keep it that way, but we also feel it is our job to tell him about the world. We’ve always shared news at age appropriate levels. He’s known about September 11 since very early on, especially since his birthday is close to that date, but in general terms. His school has been great; talking about tragedy with increasing detail as his maturity grew.

However, we have been at a loss how to explain the happenings in Ferguson, Missouri, this week. Yes, we told him what happened to Trayvon Martin. Yes, the legal system failed Trayvon as much as the vindictive racism of George Zimmerman. But in Ferguson, there are so many things I can’t even believe, how do I explain it to my kid? Continue reading…

Summer Camp Growing Up
Jul 2014
10

Empowering Tweens To Stand Up For Themselves

Dex is at summer camp in the park again this year. It’s had its ups and downs this time around, partly because he is at the upper age limit for the camp. He still loves hanging with his friends, swimming, crafts – all that summer camp stuff. But he is getting really frustrated with the methods of some of the counselors, who are treating them like kids half their age.

Recently he got in trouble for something and was sent to time out. Fine, except they never really explained what he did wrong. Partly because it’s a big camp full of kids running around like maniacs in the sun, but partly because they just don’t seem to understand that the older kids will want to have more explanation. Continue reading…

Explaining cursing and foul language to children
Apr 2014
16

Colorful Language

That’s the term Dex uses to refer to cursing. “Colorful language.” I am not even sure where he picked it up, but he is not very fond of it.

“He is annoying. He uses colorful language all the time.”

The funny thing is, I have quite the potty mouth myself, although I have tried hard over the years to curb it in front of Dex. And generally, we have not made cursing an issue around the house. We have always talked about it in terms of consequences. Continue reading…

Tweens To Teens: Becoming An Adult
Apr 2014
04

He Thinks He’s An Adult Now

That’s a bit of an exaggeration but Dex is 11.5 – apparently the exact age that pushes a child (mine, at least) from tween peckishness to full on tween angst. He’s a great kid. He’ll be a great kid through his teen years and into adulthood. I have full faith in that. He’s just entering that time when he is becoming his own person and most importantly, separating from us. Part of that separation includes thinking he knows everything and thinking we are annoying, weird, and embarrassing. Continue reading…

Feb 2014
11

Non-Communication During Travel

How do you stay in touch with family while out and about? As in, when one parent travels for work or fun, and the other stays home with the kid(s). Many friends have complained about this dilemma: you call in and the kids get all riled up… a mixture of missing you, bummed they aren’t there, excited about where you are. And then the other parent is left to pick up the pieces.

When Dex was younger, this was a real problem for us. Phone calls were awkward. Trying to explain what was going on in the middle of conferences was disjointed. Me? Personally? I get so overwhelmed with all the people that it’s hard for me to concentrate on a conversation in a hallway with traffic buzzing back and forth around me. Continue reading…