I have been feeling like crap lately. Not enough sleep. Too much work, too much social, too much caffeine. Don’t get me wrong, a lot of it has been really awesome. Lots of fun with friends and lots of fun exposure for my bloggy type work, like the TV interview for Being Savvy Denver.
But things have also been slipping. For example, communication between Bryan and I – even though we work and live with each other – had been reduced to dangerous levels. He told me if I started Jotting him to ask for sex, he would divorce me. And don’t even get me started on the laundry situation.
Which led Bryan and I to have a Come To Jesus talk yesterday. Basically he and I reaffirmed that the three of us – Bryan, Declan, Aimee – are what’s. most. important. He totally supports everything that is going on with my blog, recognizes that some of the craziness has to do with BlogHer coming up, not to mention the DNC coming to Denver in August and the millions of bloggers coming in at various times in preparation for that, but also reminded me the SOMETHING HAS TO GIVE.
He was right. We brainstormed some ideas and today really *is* a better day.
He also told me something that both hurt my feelings *and* gave me a better awareness of my surroundings. He told me that he has been asked on numerous occasions by several different people, “So, does Aimee ever talk about anything else except her blog?”
We talked through that for a while too, and first of all, I realized that since I “know” so many of you so well, I tell your stories like you were from a friend IRL. But I start the story with “my bloggy friend so-and-so…” Why do I do that??? It’s got to be annoying. I think I am trying to clarify that the person I am talking about is a person I know fairly well but have never met technically – but seriously, who the fuck cares? It would be like starting every conversation with “my rock star friend Joe.” So I am stopping that. Besides the fact, this is the brave new world. You guys are my REAL friends.
Secondly, though, I have to admit my next response was indignation. Because, when one works a full time job, has a child, a husband, and writes for 3 blogs – how many things do they really have to talk about anyway? Especially when the blogs talk about all of the above, right?
I know there are bloggers out there where no one in their real life even knows about their blog. I am not one of those people. Granted, it took me a while to “come out” to certain factions in my life – but it is very hard for me to compartmentalize myself like that. In essence, I am a blabbermouth, can’t hold anything back, what you see is what you get. And thus, everything pours into my blog and in turn, pours back into my life.
Here’s where I don’t have an answer yet and I am looking for advice. How do you balance your blog with real life? When portions of your peeps don’t give a fig about your online life? Any thoughts, anecdotes, commiseries (is that even a word?) are most welcome.