I often joke that I have OCD. When in reality I am probably offending people who really have OCD when I say that – because in truth, what I have is the inability to let go of an idea when it takes hold. Seriously. I am like a dog with a bone. Coupled with a Type-A personality, I can get pretty damn obsessed with getting things right, even when they don’t matter.
OK, maybe I do have OCD.
What happens when you see perfectionism sprouting in your son? In all things except the need to keep his desk clean, of course. I *really* wouldn’t mind some more perfectionism in that area.
But here is where the struggle comes in for us as parents.
He is supposed to do his homework, and do it well. He is supposed to read his assigned library books, and read them well. He is supposed to try try try, at all things, and try it well.
How to find the balance between encouraging him to do well, and cutting him a break? Sometimes he gets so wrapped up in making it *perfect* that I worry that we expect too much from him. Not just in his schoolwork, but in life.
And then I watch him do *just enough* to get by – and I think, OK, NOW, now is the time to encourage him, suggest places he could push himself harder…. and all I ever feel like is some crazy stage mom.
How do YOU do it?
I know we all struggle with balance in this issue. I would really like to find it.