I’m 41. Bryan is 42. We are quickly approaching middle-age. As much as I cringe at that word – the fun part is making servers guess how old I am and cackle hysterically when they say 32 or 33. Yes, I understand they are undercutting to pad their tip, the point is: I DON’T CARE. THEY SAID THIRTY-TWO, YOS.
When you stare down the other half of your life, you also start looking back. Bryan and I have been talking about this a lot. How can we make it work better? All this. How can we find balance? When have we done it well? When have we been total assholes? Living a full life without burning out. Spending time with our family, friends – but still finding fulfillment at work and other creative pursuits.
It’s damn hard.
Being in the social media space allows you to meet people, lots of people. Here in Denver and Boulder we have a vibrant community, who come in all shapes and sizes… and ages.
We hang out with people 20 years older than us, and 20 years younger than us. OK, maybe more of the youngers, because there are more of them.
The point is, as we look around, we see friends struggling with the same things we struggled with then, and we help them when we can.
Monika, who can read my mind half the time, has been going through a career change lately. She had to sit down and really think through what she wanted, what was best for her, which direction she should go – so we talked. OK, mainly we texted, but we texted a lot. She listened, really listened, took it in, and – of course, as she should – found her own path. But I felt like I gave her some valuable insight from a been-there-done-that perspective.
Jeremy likes to call me his big sister. So, when he was up for a job interview, he messaged me a photo of him, all dressed up like an adult and stuff. “How is this?” I didn’t blow off the question with sarcasm, because it touched my heart that he trusted me enough to ask. I poked around about the job, and then replied, “You look perfect.” He got the job.
Andy is 30, and has been really working in his field since he was 15, when he started playing in bands. He co-founded Flobots and now is back with his original band, Bop Skizzum. Yes, I have mentioned Andy a lot recently, because we are hanging out like crazy – working on social media and tech stuff for the band. Andy is a nut, but I know he adores me. Why? Because he introduces me to most people as his “mother that had me at a really inappropriate age.”
The point is, I think we’ll be writing about this a bunch more. Yes, I mean we. I am going to get Bryan to climb out of his shell and write regularly here, on Greeblemonkey, because this topic is one he is passionate about. I may even have some of the young ones guest post. Or you guys – if you have things to say?
I really think it will turn into a sidebar section, or maybe something more – where we can just toss around ideas for handling those life things we all struggle with, over and over again.