Isn’t is weird how things appear in threes?
First, we have budget issues at school. (Don’t we all?) They have been stressful, on-going, and now is the time to make final decisions. We have a committee that works on this all year long, and frankly, while I do totally trust them with the process, I also cannot handle the associated craziness.
At one of the last meetings, a letter surfaced that was signed, “From The Teachers.” I don’t pretend to know all the in’s and out’s of how this letter surfaced and why it showed up that day, but I do feel like calling some people one word:
Passive aggressive pansies.
One of the parents felt they should forward the letter, giving more attention to people who can’t communicate through proper channels, and stirring the pot further.
When I attended the PTA meeting to discuss this letter, I thought my head was going to explode.
We have incredibly thoughtful people on a committee working hard all year long, for hours at a time, at multiple meetings that none of these people bother to attend – and then an inflammatory piece of paper shows up, pushing things all their way?
Second example. My friend Connie recently blogged about how someone read The Lorax to their kids at school. I’ll leave the telling of the tale to her, but in a nutshell, an anonymous parent didn’t like it. (Didn’t like WHAT exactly?) But instead of being ignored for not having the cajones to sign their request, and explain their concerns – the teacher is now clearing all books to be read to the class. I am sorry, what-the-what?
At least real bullies have fists.
Or threats, as we are experiencing in Declan’s case.
I won’t go too deep into the situation because we are still working it out, but when your son tells you he can’t go somewhere because he is afraid of another kid, you start paying attention. When you find out that another child has saying outrageously scary things to your child, you get mad.
But you also wonder.
How many types of bullies are there?
Do they all get treated the same?
Where do they come from?
When you hear the word “bully,” you think of the big dude slamming his fist down some bean pole’s throat.
We forget that it happens everywhere, and very often from people who are weak and hide behind their words.
Have you every had to deal with a bully,
either with your children or as and adult?
Thoughts… Suggestions… Advice?