We’ve been really lucky. In general, Declan’s friends have been all nice little kids. Mostly girls, of course, which is why he is so well-versed in the game of “Kitty,” but overall – really nice kids. In fact – our neighborhood school is filled with nice kids. It’s like a nice kid bonanza. Most days, we feel like we’ve hit the jackpot.
But, it’s been interesting to watch, now that Declan is in Kindergarten, how the friendships are shifting. The boys are aligning. And some of the bad boys are becoming cool. And while Declan seems somewhat oblivious to all this and insists he is still “best friends” with everyone, part of me started to wonder: When do true, meaningful friendships start?
And I kind of had an epiphany. I can control this situation. At least to a certain degree, at least at this age. Not that I want to manipulate Declan’s thoughts about any particular kid – we are very careful to NOT do that. But more that I could encourage friendships by inviting kids over more often, getting to know their parents, and – to be perfectly honest – *not* inviting over the kids who drive me bonkers with their Wild Child Loose On The Playground routine.
So, we invited 2 brothers over on Friday night, one from Declan’s class and one 3 years older. Two boys who we don’t know very well, but who have always seemed very nice. Two boys whose parents also seem very nice, if not a bit reserved on the playground. Parents who I may have scared a bit with my stalking behavior when I REALLY wanted a playdate… but were polite enough and trusting enough to follow through with our plans.
So they came. And rocked. the. house. Those boys where incredibly nice, polite and funny. They even tried Bryan’s pumpkin soup at dinner.
Get this! When the boys noticed the couch pulled apart (because our cat is an asshat and is peeing all over everything lately), I explained that the cat has a problem going to the bathroom in the right place… the oldest boy said – AND I QUOTE: “That must be really hard for you.”
But more importantly: They also played and laughed and had a GREAT time.
Proving to me that Operation Friendship is a GREAT fucking idea.
Yes, I know sometimes the playdates might not go as well as this time. They may suck. That’ll be OK too.
And leave it to me to make this into a “mission” when it’s really about spreading out and finding new friends at a time when life is all about finding new friends… But seriously, dudes…
Life is cooler when you do it to theme music.
P.S. 30 Days of Thanks
I am thankful that there is now a light version of Mike’s Hard Cranberry Lemonade so I can consume a fruity fizzy alcoholic drink without the accompanying 270 calories.
UDATED TO ADD: I hope the POKDHBFWF (Parents of Kids Declan Has Been Friends With Forever) don’t take this post the wrong way. KDHBFWF are freaking awesome and are wonderful friendships. This post is more about the new horizons at school, since hanging with KDHBFWF have generally been outside of school.