We’ve all had them. Those friends who are like a virus in our lives, the ones you just need to make a break with to get clarity on how they affect you?
What if that friend is really one of your very best friends? And their child IS your son’s best friend? And you don’t even realize how poisonous the relationship is until over a year later and you’ve gained a whole hella perspective?
It’s hard that Declan still asks for his friend.
But what is harder, for me, is that in the midst of the friendship, I didn’t see how often I was being manipulated, lied to, and lead around by a string. And in the end, how lucky I was that this friend happened to also be a Drama Queen (with a capital DQ). A drama queen that decided to blow up our friendship over something that was 99% her fault. Something that, in the heat of the moment, I took on my shoulders and bore even though I knew SHE should have said she was sorry. SHE should have reached out. SHE should have tried at least as hard as I did.
But she didn’t.
SHE let our friendship wither and die. SHE did me the favor that I didn’t have to stab a knife in our friendship. She pushed it off a cliff for me instead. And the truth is, I am better off for it.
But it still doesn’t make it any easier when Declan asks for his friend.